Here are 5 types of student before break. See which ones match you or your friends!
This is the person who is always looking to go to someone else’s house or join in on someone else’s plan. Maybe they just don’t want to go home, or maybe they just
This is the person who takes trips you didn’t even know they were planning! They to go to places you have only dreamed of going or only heard mentioned a few times on television.
The Family Reunioner
Every chance this person gets they are going home. They always talk about home and how they miss it. Everyone knows their whole family including who’s birthday is coming up next.
The Escape Artist
This person seems to almost vanish into thin air right before break but somehow gets all of their assignments and test completed. How they get it all done is all a mystery.
“What break?” This is the person who is working (possibly multiple jobs) during all of break. They may not even leave campus for break. They use this time to make more money, or to get ahead on their classwork.
When your child becomes a college student, there are a lot of changes. Maybe they have moved out of the house for the first time, or moved out of state. This could be their first time doing their laundry on their own or sharing a room.
Regardless of what the changes look like, doing the following will help in building a relationship where your student shares their experiences openly with you.
- Ask questions to seek understanding
- Ask open ended questions
- Do not interrupt the speaker
- Listen more than you speak
I know, I know… you have supported them their entire lives! How can you support them any more? Well, I encourage you to think about supporting them differently. Think about supporting them as an adult, know that they will need to be supported as your child occasionally.
- Remind them of why you will believe they will succeed
- Show/Share your affection for them
- Send them a care package with reminders from home
First generation students typically feel as though they cannot “fail”. They feel immense pressure to not only graduate, but to become a doctor, or lawyer, or continue the family business. When you are communicating with your student, remember to empathize with them. Remember that you are their parent first, and they need to know that if they are not a lawyer, they can still be successful. Your student needs you to tell them that they are not responsible for bringing your family out of poverty, they are responsible for using this opportunity to make the best life for themselves.
- Let them know they are not disappointing you
- Verbally recognize the pressure they are under
- Remind them to live for themselves
- Be flexible with your definition of success
- Remember that they are not perfect,they are human like you
Students, are you still navigating being first-generation in college? Parents, are you trying to communicate with your first-generation student but it’s not working? Try coaching!
November 8th is National First Generation day. I want to take a moment to recognize all of the current students and graduates who identify as first-generation. First-generation can mean a variety of things as a college student. You may be the first person in your family to go to college-the traditional definition of first-generation-or you may be the first person in your family to attend school in the U.S. Some people have questions like, “Well if my mom only got her associates am I first gen?” Or “My dad started at a community college but dropped out, am I first gen? And even “My mom is currently working on her degree, am I first gen?” To me the answer to all of these questions is yes!
Hopefully someone on your campus is celebrating First Generation Day, however if not feel free to share with us why you are proud to be a first generationer!